Shut Up!

I’m wondering why women are so drawn to juicy secrets? While I realize that men also enjoy an opportunity to talk about someone’s misfortune, women are especially excited by this. I’ve seen women practically foam at the mouth at the expectation of gleaning a morsel of private information. The main problem is that it is especially prevalent among believers.

I know you’re shocked and appalled by this revelation. The church is meant to be a safe haven for those who are broken and weary. I’ve had a tendency to steer clear of women’s groups primarily because I feel that gossip is so often thinly veiled in a cloak of concern or a so-called prayer request.

Gossips are thrilled to spread information about someone’s failures or distress. The intent of gossip is tragic, painful and repulsive. A gossip does not care if the information being spread is truthful. She does not care who gets caught in the crossfire. As women, we have much to learn about gossip.

Many women are afraid of sharing their hearts or failures with other women because they don’t want to hear about it later on from someone else. They are also afraid that the “friend” they choose to share with is secretly happy she is struggling. Gossip makes it hard to truly empathize with another, and it it in direct opposition with Jesus’ teaching. We are commanded to cry with one another and help to bear one another’s burdens, not to rejoice in shortcomings.

Proverbs 20:19 says: A gossip goes around telling secrets, so don’t hang around with chatterers.
Proverbs 11:12-13 says: It is foolish to belittle one’s neighbor; a sensible person keeps quiet. A gossip goes around telling secrets, but those who are trustworthy can keep a confidence. The Bible leaves no question about what should leave our mouths. Since the Bible takes a hard line on being busybodies who have nothing better to do than spread lies, as Christians, we are supposed to do the same. Let us learn to be TRUE friends to each other. Let us learn to glory only in the good things and exercise self-control.