Marriage Miracle

This month, my husband and I celebrated 9 years of marriage. While the time has gone by quickly, it surely hasn’t been easy all the time. I realize that we are blessed. Now, more than ever.

During this past week, I have watched Facebook statuses change from single to married, from married to “it’s complicated”, and from married to single. What a busy couple of days. As usual, I started thinking.

What makes a marriage fall apart? Was it gradual or in the blink of an eye? At times it’s a series of betrayals. Perhaps there is infidelity at the root. Often couples say that they have just “fallen out of love”?

When analyzing my own marriage, I notice the biggest holes when our spiritual connection is unacceptable. Distance expands into a gulf than seems impassable. At times, you feel helpless and afraid of what tomorrow will bring. When financial difficulties are looming, the stress level takes a toll on our union. When our children are placed too high on our list, the strain is evident. So why do couples stay together in spite of hardships? I have no idea.

We love each other, but I honestly don’t think it’s a prerequisite to marriage. At times, we stay because we said we would. I’m thankful for the promise and the covenant we have together. I’m glad that God is the third strand. I’m glad to be married. Still. I can’t take our time together for granted. Each day is a blessing. Each year a milestone. My marriage is worth protecting and holding on to.

I’m also praying for those with new marriages, those in crisis and those that have ended. God is the Father who cares enough to hold us through the hardest times. Thank you.