I Need a Man (Pt 4)

As February comes to a close, I’m closing (or maybe pausing) this series.

Value yourself. Demand respect.

The other parts of the series elude to this. Finding value starts with understanding and embracing who you are because of God’s love for you. Accepting the fact that you are a princess because your Father is the King. Carrying yourself like a woman of virtue. Keep your own standards high.

Embrace the parts of yourself that you aren’t too thrilled with. If you have too many curves and don’t love them, lose weight. Start small. Eat less. Exercise. Bad skin, see a dermatologist
or get good make-up.

I’m constantly saddened by the ways we as women will reduce ourselves to the lowest levels in order to attract or keep a man. There are no limits. We will dress in inappropriate ways. Participate in activities we feel uncomfortable with. We will date married men. When we look at our reflections, the person in view is a stranger.

I’m having a hard time writing this because as I do, I am thinking of girls who’ve sold out their closest friends to win a guy, only to end up divorcing him after he cheated. Of the young woman who’s sleeping with a married man by telling herself, he really wants me. I’m remembering the wrong guys that I dated, knowing they were wrong for me from day one.

Women, we wield power. Men do what they are permitted to do. If you say no to sex, they say no, too. Unless you’ve chosen a criminal… Don’t play games. Stop advertising all of your assets. Hold him accountable. Make him want to respect you. Let that marinate. I love you girls! Love you too. Our Dad does.