Dreaming of Sex

While riding home after work on Friday, I was chatting with my daughter about her day at school. I like to use this time to hear all about what she learned and who she’s “unfriended” today. It started out as an ordinary conversation, but soon took a turn to the outrageous! She tells me her classmate dreamed of having sex with one of the older boys! What?!! How?!! Why?!! You can imagine my horror.

First of all, these kids are 5-6 years of age. Do they even know what sex is? If so, why? So, I began to talk to myself quickly. “Calm down, or she will stop talking. Deep breaths. It’s not as bad as it sounds.” It was.

I asked her what sex is. She said it means “to show love.” I was quiet. I responded, “Sex is something for married people only. It’s not the same as love.”

What struck me is that, my daughter told me, “It means to show love.” How many adult women believe the same thing? We learn very young (too young, apparently), that love and sex and synonymous. While searching for love, we trade sex, and self-esteem suffers in the process.

So I’ve learned a couple of things from this encounter: Listen to my child, talk to her, pray for her often. If you have children, realize that they are growing up way too fast now, and it’s scary. They have many other “teachers” besides us. Let’s make our voice the loudest and most influential. Trust God to guide you on what to say and how to protect them. Be a positive example.

Dear God,
I thank you for entrusting me with such a precious daughter. Help me to love her as you love me. Give me the wisdom to raise her to love You first. Help me to build her self-esteem and encourage her to love herself deeply. Help us to nurture an open relationship with free-flowing conversation forever. Protect her from the dangerous outside influences. Help her to grow in grace and wisdom. To always carry herself like a lady, to be strong and smart. Shield her from the lies men tell, and let her find the male love that she needs in the arms of her father…until such a time as he walks her down the aisle. Amen.

Sincerely,
Her Mommy

Thanks to Yves for the beautiful pic